Inconsistent motivation to swallow
Posted: Tue Jan 20, 2026 11:57 am
I’ve been posting more and more recently on the Reddit cum eating sub. There’s so many guys who keep generally throwing out the same questions over and over so I feel like I ought to give a little advice when I can.
r/eatingowncum
Overwhelmingly most posts are from guys asking how to take their entire load without “chickening out”, or, how to get used to the taste, or generally getting up the nerve to cum in their own mouth at all, which to me is easily answered when you allow yourself to get into your own headspace and motivations. What ai respond is how I’ve personally achieved success so I wanted to run it across the pros here to see if they’ve arrived generally the same way I did. This is my usual reply:
Don’t feel like you have to take an entire load at first or every time. Sometimes I just want that first warm spurt, just get the taste of ME in my mouth and on my breath and I’ve been eating my cum for over ten years. Sometimes I don’t know that’s all I want though until my orgasm happens though. Your brain is complicated in what it wants and sometimes it’s very single-minded. Your level of arousal at the time of orgasm plays a big huge part in what you’ll do at the exact moment of climax. A big part of your motivation just wants good sex. Another part of you craves that self-intimacy and connection with your own body. Another part of you wants to be kinky or to prove or reinforce something that’s motivating you internally at the time of release (anxiety, anger, fatigue, hunger, depression, the need for intimacy). The level of those needs ebbs and flows with varying strength at the time of climax and you often make your choice to swallow in a split second before ejaculation. Don’t feel like you’ve had a failed session though if you’ve been really building up to taking it all but in the end only take just a little taste or spurt of semen into your mouth, even if you’ve successfully taken more in past sessions. In these instances you obviously just wanted to give yourself some tangible proof that you’ve performed this act with your own body this time or you’re scratching a noisy little itch for self-kink . When that happens to me I remind myself that obviously I’m satisfying something in myself while accepting that another part of me doesn’t need all of my semen to feel “balanced out” and content. I find that I have to be highly aroused during an orgasm to take a full load down my throat with great enthusiasm. It’s often harsh and bitter and you don’t always know what you’re going to taste until you have a lot of it to contend with in the back of your throat. Just remember, it’s not a failure to only take a little sometimes. If you’re getting disappointed in failing to take your cum and you’re just starting to get into it, again, start with small amounts (drops or single spurts) and slowly build in volume. Success and satisfaction doesn’t mean swallowing 100% of your load every time. You don’t have anything to prove, even to yourself. It shouldn’t be about that. Taste and ingestion of your own semen enhances your orgasm. It’s not a goal to be overcome or conquered. The idea is to be able to smack your lips and mouth at the taste and smell of your own sexual fluids in your mouth and to smile with satisfaction at your own level of self-intimacy as you relax and enjoy the afterglow. That makes it more likely that you’ll continue the same pattern of behavior next session, which gives you the opportunity to increase your volume then if you’re ready. Remember, there’s always more cum available during your next session.
r/eatingowncum
Overwhelmingly most posts are from guys asking how to take their entire load without “chickening out”, or, how to get used to the taste, or generally getting up the nerve to cum in their own mouth at all, which to me is easily answered when you allow yourself to get into your own headspace and motivations. What ai respond is how I’ve personally achieved success so I wanted to run it across the pros here to see if they’ve arrived generally the same way I did. This is my usual reply:
Don’t feel like you have to take an entire load at first or every time. Sometimes I just want that first warm spurt, just get the taste of ME in my mouth and on my breath and I’ve been eating my cum for over ten years. Sometimes I don’t know that’s all I want though until my orgasm happens though. Your brain is complicated in what it wants and sometimes it’s very single-minded. Your level of arousal at the time of orgasm plays a big huge part in what you’ll do at the exact moment of climax. A big part of your motivation just wants good sex. Another part of you craves that self-intimacy and connection with your own body. Another part of you wants to be kinky or to prove or reinforce something that’s motivating you internally at the time of release (anxiety, anger, fatigue, hunger, depression, the need for intimacy). The level of those needs ebbs and flows with varying strength at the time of climax and you often make your choice to swallow in a split second before ejaculation. Don’t feel like you’ve had a failed session though if you’ve been really building up to taking it all but in the end only take just a little taste or spurt of semen into your mouth, even if you’ve successfully taken more in past sessions. In these instances you obviously just wanted to give yourself some tangible proof that you’ve performed this act with your own body this time or you’re scratching a noisy little itch for self-kink . When that happens to me I remind myself that obviously I’m satisfying something in myself while accepting that another part of me doesn’t need all of my semen to feel “balanced out” and content. I find that I have to be highly aroused during an orgasm to take a full load down my throat with great enthusiasm. It’s often harsh and bitter and you don’t always know what you’re going to taste until you have a lot of it to contend with in the back of your throat. Just remember, it’s not a failure to only take a little sometimes. If you’re getting disappointed in failing to take your cum and you’re just starting to get into it, again, start with small amounts (drops or single spurts) and slowly build in volume. Success and satisfaction doesn’t mean swallowing 100% of your load every time. You don’t have anything to prove, even to yourself. It shouldn’t be about that. Taste and ingestion of your own semen enhances your orgasm. It’s not a goal to be overcome or conquered. The idea is to be able to smack your lips and mouth at the taste and smell of your own sexual fluids in your mouth and to smile with satisfaction at your own level of self-intimacy as you relax and enjoy the afterglow. That makes it more likely that you’ll continue the same pattern of behavior next session, which gives you the opportunity to increase your volume then if you’re ready. Remember, there’s always more cum available during your next session.